expensive affairs花销很大的事

　　Weddings are expensive affairs - there's nothing new or surprising in that statement.婚礼是件花销很大的事--这句话没什么新意，也不会令人惊讶。

　　the financial toll on the person paying for it支付婚礼费用的人的经济损失

　　When we talk about the costs of a wedding, we often think about the financial toll on the person paying for it.当我们谈论婚礼的费用时，我们经常想到的是支付婚礼费用的人的经济损失。

　　outlay 花费

　　tiered cakes层层叠叠的蛋糕

　　the dress with a long train拖地礼服裙

　　appliques and veil绣花头纱

　　canapes at the reception招待会上的小菜

　　The outlay on tiered cakes,the dress with a long train, appliques and veil,and canapes at the reception can all add up.层层叠叠的蛋糕、拖地礼服裙、绣花头纱，以及招待会上的小菜，这些都会增加支出。

　　attend 参加

　　But what about the guests?The cost to your friends and family to attend. 不过，客人呢?你的朋友和家人参加婚礼需要支出的费用。

　　the price of getting there到达那里的价格

　　The first thing to think about when attending is the price of getting there.参加时首先要考虑的是到达那里的价格。

　　bring some expenses造成一些费用

　　stay in a hotel住在酒店

　　Even just a few hundred miles from where you live can bring some expenses-be it transport or staying in a hotel.即使离你住的地方只有几百英里，也会造成一些费用--无论是交通还是住在酒店。

　　tie the knot结婚

　　in exotic locations在异国他乡

　　make their special day even more special使他们的特殊日子更加特别

　　on a beach in front of palm trees在棕榈树前的海滩上

　　But some people like to tie the knot in exotic locations,thinking it will make their special day even more special-on a beach in front of palm trees rather than somewhere closer to home.但有些人喜欢在异国他乡结婚，认为这会使他们的特殊日子更加特别--在棕榈树前的海滩上，而不是离家更近的地方。

　　far-flung corners of the Earth地球上遥远的角落

　　a dealbreaker 砸买卖的因素

　　Going to far-flung corners of the Earth to watch the event can really be a dealbreaker for some when deciding if they can make it去地球上遥远的角落观看婚礼，对一些人来说，在决定他们是否能做到这一点时，可能真的会选择不去。

　　on their wedding day在别人的婚礼上

　　What do you give a person on their wedding day?在别人的婚礼上，你会给他什么?

　　isn't the done thing并不是一件得体的事

　　In some cultures, asking for money isn't the done thing.

　　在一些文化中，要钱并不是一件好事。

　　the bride and groom 新娘和新郎

　　issue a list of items they want to receive发出一个他们想要收到的物品清单

　　Sometimes the bride and groom may issue a list of items they want to receive that you have to pick from.有时，新娘和新郎可能会发出一个他们想要收到的物品清单，你必须从中挑选。

　　attendees参加婚礼的人

　　cause offence引起冒犯

　　be out of pocket超出你的能力范围

　　And if it's money, how much do you give them? How much is too much? These are questions all attendees face-give too little and you may cause offence,too much and you may be out of pocket.如果是钱，你该给他们多少?多少钱才算多?这些都是所有参加婚礼的人要面临的问题--给的太少可能会引起冒犯，给的太多可能会超出你的能力范围。

　　be outdone by a friend giving more than you别的朋友比你给的多

　　And of course,you don't want to be outdone by a friend giving more than you.当然，你也不希望别的朋友比你给的多。

　　regret about the amount you've spent后悔花那么多钱

　　Finally,the last thing you want to feel when going to a wedding is regret about the amount you've spent.最后，在参加婚礼时，你最不想感到的是后悔花那么多钱。

　　feel a little resentment会有点怨恨

　　If you give a good gift and spend a lot on getting there,and the event isn't great, or the food at the reception isn't perfect, you might feel a little resentment.如果你送了一份好的礼物，花了很多钱去参加，而婚礼并不怎么样，或者招待会上的食物并不好，你可能会有点怨恨。

　　give what you can afford to give给你负担得起的东西

　　Therefore,only give what you can afford to give.

　　因此，只给你负担得起的东西。

　　be expensive for everyone concerned对每个人来说都花销很大

　　Weddings can be expensive for everyone concerned.婚礼对每个人来说都花销很大。

　　overlook the cost for guests忽略了客人的费用

　　But people often overlook the cost for guests.但人们往往忽略了客人的费用。

　　be a celebration of love庆祝爱

　　In the end,though,that special day is supposed to be a celebration of love above anything else.不过，归根结底，这个特殊的日子应该是庆祝爱，爱高于一切。